Shy Bladder Cure http://shybladdercure.info Paruresis Cure Fri, 02 Sep 2011 16:10:43 +0000 en hourly 1 Shy Bladder Tip That Gets Instant Results http://shybladdercure.info/2011/03/shy-bladder-tip/ http://shybladdercure.info/2011/03/shy-bladder-tip/#comments Mon, 28 Mar 2011 19:57:55 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=109

As a clinical hypnotherapist, I’d like to share with you a highly effective shy bladder tip that I’ve taught one of my clients. Since using it he’s been able to use public urinals about 75% of the time. Previously he couldn’t use them at all; a massive improvement to say the least.

It’s very simple to apply and can be adapted to your personal preference.

Shy Bladder Tip

When you’re out in public and you notice that dreaded urge to ‘go’, panic signals fire off in your head. This is the beginning of a certain psychological pattern that has been ‘programmed’ into your subconscious. The pattern communicates to your body that the environment is unsafe, therefore it physically won’t allow you to ‘go’.

The trick is: Interrupt the pattern.

A highly effective way of doing this (and very simple in concept) is to try and work out a challenging maths sum in your head. For example, walk up to a urinal and try to work out 173 + 364. Takes a bit of thinking right? You’ll notice that as all your concentration focuses on the calculation, your body relaxes and nature is able to take its course.

What’s happening is that the process of calculating a sum interrupts the ‘shy bladder pattern’, therefore, it can’t run in the way that it’s used to. A pattern interrupt is the equivalent of taking a knife and scratching a disk; do it consistently enough and the disk can never be played in the same way again.

I’d also highly recommend coming up with at least 3 different ‘interrupts’ that you can call on instantly. Everyone’s different and responds in different ways. Take the time to brainstorm specific tools that will get the best response out of you. Remember, the goal is to interrupt your programmed pattern; anything that can achieve this (not matter how unusual or silly it may seem) is extremely effective.

For example, you could start reciting your favourite song in your head, you could find a long word and see how many new words you can make out of it or you could try reciting the alphabet backwards in your head! It really doesn’t matter what you choose, what matters is the results you get!

Now as I mentioned above, my client was able to achieve a 75% success rate using this effective shy bladder tip. It’s no magic bullet and there will be times when circumstances take over. However practice it regularly and it’ll go a long way to improving the current state of your condition.

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Change Your Associations, Change Your Life: How To Get Lasting Results http://shybladdercure.info/2010/11/neuro-associations/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/11/neuro-associations/#comments Tue, 16 Nov 2010 00:05:44 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=105 Why do certain therapies work and others don’t? A very interesting question indeed. Sometimes a client can spend year upon year investing their time and money in a psychological professional, with very little progress. On other occasions, the change can be instant. Whether it’s a fear of spiders, deep issues with family members, or conditions such as Paruresis; the patients who get successful, lasting results all share one commonality; reconditioning of their neuro-associations.

The term Neuro-associations is of course scientific in nature, but understanding it is very simple. It is the meaning we link to things. For example, Paruretics associate shame, embarrassment, and ultimate pain to their condition; these are their neuro-associations. So how do you overcome the condition? By changing the meaning of what you associate to it. If the meaning that you link to Paruresis doesn’t change; you won’t change.

So, let’s look at the formula of reconditioning your neuro-associations, as it can be directly applied to your Paruresis.

Stage one – If you are in a position where you know you should change, or you want to change, or you know you ought to change; that is not enough. You need to get to a stage where you MUST change, and you truly believe you CAN change.

To help you achieve this, there’s an exercise I strongly recommend you try: write down 10 reasons why you must change right this instant, and also 10 reasons why you can.

Stage two – You’ve got to interrupt the pattern of the limiting association. As soon as you realise the urge to ‘go’ in a public environment, you have a patterned way of responding. Now, imagine your mind is a record player; if you take the record out and start scratching it, it will never play the same way again. If you interrupt your patterns, you stop them from playing the same way.

The next exercise: write down 5 ways you can interrupt your ‘Paruresis Pattern’. This can be anything from trying to work out 417 x 18, or trying to spell Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious. Get creative and find something that works for you.

Stage three – You need to condition yourself to have a new association that empowers you. For example, think of a time when you felt incredibly strong; like nothing could stop you. Now, every time you enter a public toilet, start playing that empowering strength pattern in your mind. Do this on a regular basis, condition your mind, and soon the feelings of strength, accomplishment and power will get associated to public toilet environments, instead of the feelings of shame, embarrassment and pain. That is how you create new neuro-associations and this is how you change.

The final exercise: Write down all of the things you’re going to gain when you overcome your Paruresis; all the pleasure you’re going to experience as a result. Now, whenever you start thinking about your shy bladder, condition yourself to think about all these things you’ll gain. This takes practice, as of course the word ‘condition’ implies. However, by doing this on a regular basis, you’re developing new, empowering associations, that will stick and get the lasting results you’re looking for.

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The Twin Forces That Control Human Behaviour http://shybladdercure.info/2010/11/twin-forces/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/11/twin-forces/#comments Fri, 05 Nov 2010 02:25:42 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=99 Every decision we make, or action we take, is ultimately the result of the twin forces; pleasure and pain. Now forgive me if this sounds a little simplistic, but give me an opportunity and I will explain how this is so.

Let’s take a Paruresis related example. “John” enters a public toilet. He looks at the set of urinals and wishes he could simply stroll up to them and do his business. However, he also notices that there are several other guys in the toilet, there are no dividers between the urinals, and there’s a strong possibility that he won’t be able to go. He then looks over to the stalls; they have locks on the doors, they give him complete privacy, and he’s confident he’ll be able to use them. “John” decides the stalls are the better option for him.

Now, when “John” was assessing the urinals the following things went through his head:

  • “Other guys may notice I’m was unable to go, therefore causing me embarrassment.”
  • “The toilet is fairly busy so I know I’d struggle to go, therefore evoking anxiety.”
  • “There are no urinal dividers, therefore there’s no privacy.”
  • “I really need the toilet and if I froze up, the next opportunity to pee wouldn’t be for some time, therefore causing uncertainty and discomfort.”

Would it not be fair to say that the feelings of embarrassment, anxiousness, lack of privacy, uncertainty and discomfort all cause emotional pain? If you’re embarrassed, that isn’t a pleasurable feeling; it’s a painful one. In essence, pain is the umbrella term for all our negative emotions.

Now, when “John” was assessing whether he should use the stalls, the following things went through his head:

  • “The door will be locked, therefore I can completely relax and do my business.”
  • “I don’t have to worry about anyone seeing if I struggle to go, giving me peace of mind.”
  • “I’m in the privacy of my own stall.”
  • “I’m completely confident I’ll be able to go, therefore freeing me up as soon as I leave. No worrying about finding another toilet, or making up excuses to the people I’m with.”

Obviously, the feelings of relaxation, peace of mind, total privacy and confidence are pleasurable ones. Therefore, the umbrella term for all our positive emotions is pleasure.

So why did “John” choose the stalls over the urinals? Simple! It is inherent in our human nature to pursue pleasure and avoid pain; it’s our survival mechanism.

Now the example I’ve described doesn’t tell the full picture, it’s a snapshot of “John’s” emotional state at one moment in time. In truth, “John” has suffered from Paruresis for years and years. He desperately wants to overcome it, it’s ruining his life. He’s even read my article on ‘Systematic Desensitization‘ and is listening to my Hypnotherapy course day-in, day-out. (If you’re unsure of what Systematic Desensitization is, it’s a method of gradually exposing oneself to your phobia, so it becomes less scary).

So, if “John’s” ultimate pleasure would be to cure his Paruresis, and his ultimate pain is to continue letting it cripple his life, why when we walked into the toilet, did he opt for the stalls?… (Even with the method mentioned above and the hypnotherapy?)

Answer: Because whatever is most real to you in that snapshot in time will determine your actions. “John” wasn’t focusing on the pain of continuing to live with Paruresis, he was focusing on the pain of the potential embarrassment, anxiousness and discomfort of the moment.

If he focused on the pain that his Paruresis causes him every single day, or the pleasure he’d get from being able to use a urinal in any scenario, “John” would have walked straight up to that urinal and put what he’d learnt into action. Why? Because the notion of not attempting to overcome his condition is just too damn painful. He’d feel like a coward for not trying, he’d feel guilty, he’d feel like a failure; which ultimately means pain.

If you’re serious about overcoming Paruresis, you need analyse your associations

  • Do you link pleasure or pain to the thought of actively getting out there are practising in public?
  • Do you link pleasure or pain to the notion of telling a family member about your condition and asking them for help?
  • Do you link pleasure or pain to committing to listen to hypnotherapy sessions everyday?
  • Do you link pleasure or pain to the idea of joining a Paruresis support group?
  • Do you link pleasure or pain to applying the method of Systematic Desensitization?

If your answers to the above are ‘pain’ (which for the majority, this is quite likely), let me ask you two questions

What will be the pain if you don’t apply these solutions?

  • A lifetime of hidden embarrassment maybe…
  • The shame of your son asking you why you don’t pee at the urinal like other men…
  • A chain of humiliating scenarios where you’re so desperate to go, but you just can’t…

And what will be the pleasure if you do apply these solutions?

  • The empowered feeling of taking action to cure yourself once and far all…
  • The satisfaction that practice is the mother of skill and you will get there
  • The feeling that a burden has been lifted from your shoulders and you no longer have to live in secrecy…

The key is to change your associations. Remember: What’s most real to you in the moment, determines your actions. If your associations facilitate your desire to overcome Paruresis, not hinder it, your actions will follow suit.

Use pleasure and pain, instead of pleasure and pain using you.

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Paruresis Hypnosis: Why Paul Levrant’s Course Is So Effective http://shybladdercure.info/2010/10/paruresis-hypnosis/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/10/paruresis-hypnosis/#comments Tue, 19 Oct 2010 11:49:00 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=92 Hypnotherapy is widely regarded as the most effective treatment for Paruresis among medical professionals, psychological professionals, and cured patients. Now don’t get me wrong, techniques such as Systematic Desensitization, challenging your irrational ‘self-talk’, and telling a loved-one about your condition are proven to work. However, when used in combination with powerful Shy Bladder Hypnosis; the results come quicker.

The human mind is a locked conundrum; it can take several keys open it. These keys comes from a variety of sources, so if you’re desperate to cure your Paruresis once and for all, it’s crucial you explore every treatment technique available.

Paul Levrant’s shy bladder hypnosis makes use of the very latest Hypnosis and Behavioural Therapy techniques, which is why it is so effective and has such a high success rate. The Shy Bladder Cure course contains three separate audio’s which are designed to be listened to in sequence. Each of the sessions is to be listened to for seven consecutive days; before moving on to the next without break.

Session Number One is your introduction to relaxation. It uses powerful meditative and hypnosis techniques to get your mind and body used to the feeling of focused calmness.  Regular use of this audio teaches your subconscious that the relaxation you create in your body, is in fact, a result of the decision that you yourself make. By experiencing and practising this relaxation, you will learn to recreate it whenever you want or need to; under any conditions or circumstances.

Session Number Two begins work specifically on the  Bladder Shyness issue. It will help you address and eliminate any historical cause for your Paruresis. This technique is highly effective even if you have no immediate memory of a particular incident or events in the past that may have led to your Paruresis. Then, by using state-of-the-art subliminal and audio-sensory techniques, you are subconsciously and consciously introduced to the idea of full control over the muscles that regulate your flow. This will begin boosting the confidence that is necessary for you to regain complete conscious control at will.

Session Number Three takes you through the subconscious “rehearsal” of situations where you used to experience Paruesis, and allows you to feel naturally in control of your bladder. Once again the audio uses subliminal and audio-sensory techniques enabling you to gain complete confidence in your new-found ability.  This audio also employs powerful and unique metaphor-driven visualisations to ensure the success of your Programme.

Bottom linePaul’s shy bladder hypnosis works. To download it, click here.

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Paruresis Treatment: The Value of Support Groups http://shybladdercure.info/2010/10/paruresis-treatment/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/10/paruresis-treatment/#comments Wed, 06 Oct 2010 11:41:42 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=85 One of the hardest things a Paruretic has to deal with is the feeling of isolation. What’s so unique about Paruresis is that although millions of people suffer from the disorder, everyone copes alone. Of course, the fear of embarrassment, rejection and humiliation make this so, however if sufferers only knew how beneficial ‘sharing their story’ was to their recovery; lots more people would openly disclose their secret to those around them. This is where support groups come in. Although telling your partner or close friend about your condition is an incredibly powerful Paruresis treatment, they may find it hard to fully understand what you’re dealing with. But speaking with a group of guys who know exactly what you’re going through has unparalleled benefits, and should be seriously considered if you suffer from Paruresis.

Being able to sit in a room and openly talk about how your day-to-day life is affected by the disorder, gives you the means to let go of all the embarrassing incidents, all the public toilet diversion tactics, and all of the aspects that make up your ‘secret identity’.

Furthermore, it gives you the opportunity to put your personal situation in perspective. Let’s say for example, you’re unable to ‘go’ at a urinal. Well, there might by a guy in your group who has trouble ‘going’ in his own home. The perspective can be valuable by minimizing the perceived degree of your condition. And, if for example, you’re the guy who has trouble ‘going’ in his own home; the very aspect of sharing this information with a group is a major accomplishment on your road to recovery and a crucial part of your Paruresis treatment.

There’s also another major benefit in attending a support group; guys to practice with. The group might try collective exercises (depending on the severity of the attendees conditions), or perhaps you’ll partner up with a ‘pee buddy’ and undertake ‘Systematic Desensitization’ tasks. If you’ve not heard the term before, ‘Systematic Desensitization’ is a Paruresis treatment than involves gradually exposing oneself to our phobia. The result is a desensitization to the fear.

In the support group, you may be asked to construct a list of public toilet scenarios ranging from slightly anxiety-provoking to very anxiety-provoking. You then pair up with someone with a similar list to yours. Finally, you can meet up once a week and attempt to overcome each step, one at a time.

Now don’t be put off if this sounds a little odd or unconventional. The bottom line is that this technique works. Why is it such an effective Paruresis treatment? Because when you walk into a public toilet with someone that not only knows about your Paruresis, but sufferers from it too, the whole dynamic of the scenario changes. You’re unconscious mind acts as a protection mechanism and it’s been trained to perceive public toilets as unsafe. However, when you’re with your buddy; you’ve got protection, you’ve got back-up, you’ve got safety. As a result, you’re able to relax and you’re perfectly capable of ‘going’.

If you’re interested in joining a support group, the Internation Paruresis Association has a list of groups from all over the world. Click here for more information:

Support Groups

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Effective Paruresis Cure: Challenging Your Irrational “Self-Talk” http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/paruresis-cure/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/paruresis-cure/#comments Wed, 22 Sep 2010 10:33:43 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=77 If you’re looking for a Paruresis cure, you’re probably all too familiar with the emotional roller-coaster Shy Bladder Syndrome plays on your life. You’ll be out at the mall or cinema feeling relaxed, having a good time with your friends or family, then gradually, you feel a sudden urge to “go”. In the space of just a few seconds, you alter from feeling happy and free, to nervous and anxious. Now, I’m sure you’re extremely aware of this rapid change in your emotional state. However, have you stopped and thought about what you’re telling yourself in these highly-emotional moments? What I’m referring to is your “Self-Talk” and it’s incredibly powerful if used correctly, and vastly destructive if used incorrectly.

Now, there’s a particular type of cognitive therapy that’s concerned with altering the irrational “self-talk” that goes on in the mind, and is an extremely effective Paruresis Cure. The therapy is termed Cognitive Restructuring, and is very simple in concept. Basically, it involves identifying the negative questions and statements you present to yourself, and challenging them with undeniable evidence to prove that they just aren’t true. By doing so, the next time your subconscious throws a destructive comment your way when you’re in a public toilet scenario, you have ammunition to squash it there and then.

For example, one of the most common things a Paruretic says to themselves when at the urinal is “What if the guy next to me sees I’m not peeing?” Of course, this is destructive because it stops him from relaxing, and in reality, it’s just not logical; the guy a few urinals down couldn’t give a stuff as to whether the Paruretic is peeing or not! He’s got his own business to worry about!… That’s the undeniable evidence to challenge the negative thought.

If this is something you say to yourself, try replacing it with “No one even cares what I’m doing!”. When your emotions are running high, your “Self-Talk” becomes very powerful for one reason; it sticks. Think about it, you listen to a great song on the radio that makes you feel really happy. Hours later, you find yourself still singing the same song; it sticks! Leverage this to be your Paruresis cure.

So, what’s the method for applying this to your own Paruresis? Well firstly, you need to write down all the negative, illogical, inaccurate, and destructive questions and statements you tell yourself. Some will be able to do this by simply thinking about it now, others will need to recreate an anxiety-provoking toilet scenario to identify the dialogue. Once you’ve jotted down a list, go through each one in turn and seek evidence to prove it’s not true.

For example, if you’ve identified you regularly say to yourself “What’s wrong with me, I can’t even pee.” The undeniable evidence that you say to yourself is that “I pee all the time at home, therefore I’m fully capable of peeing here.” The trick is to find evidence that disproves the original negative statement.

For another example, maybe you regularly say to yourself “Everybody is noticing I’m not going”. Next time you go into a public toilet, stand at a urinal and deliberately don’t pee. Take a subtle look around. See how many people are actually noticing you. There’s aren’t any; there’s your evidence!

Now you’ve got your proof, apply your new, positive statements whenever you use a public toilet. When you walk in, your emotional state will be running high so tell your unconscious mind something powerful that’s going to stick, instead of something destructive. Challenging your irrational “self-talk” is an incredibly effective Paruresis cure; apply consistently and get lasting results.

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Eliminate Your Bladder Shyness – Let The Secret Out http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/bladder-shyness/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/bladder-shyness/#comments Wed, 15 Sep 2010 12:09:06 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=61 Bladder shyness is a strange phenomenon; so many people have it (approximately 17 million), yet no one is willing to talk about it. It’s understandable of course, those who endure a life restricted by Shy Bladder Syndrome find the disorder extremely embarrassing. They question why they can’t perform one of the most basic and necessary bodily functions, but of course the answer to this question lies deep in the subconscious mind. The cause is typically traced back to an anxiety-provoking event many years ago, such as being harassed while attempting to “go” or being hurried in a congested environment. However, this isn’t the only aspect that now contributes towards your bladder shyness on a daily basis

Your “secret identity” as a Paruretic also inhibits your ability to urinate in public. Let’s say for example you haven’t told your best friend that you regularly experience bladder shyness. Your out together at a ball game, and both need the toilet at half-time. On the way there you start to panic… What if your friend sees that you’re unable to go? What will they think of you? What if they tease you in front of everyone? What if they tell people you know that you couldn’t even pee?… by this point your heart is absolutely racing, and your subconscious mind is in overdrive looking to protect you from any possible danger that might threaten your safety. Your chances of “going” at this point are a little above zero! Your mind is on high-alert. Not because there are genuine dangers in the toilet, but because your best friend (someone you trust wholeheartedly) is unaware of your suffering.

The fundamental reason for bladder shyness is the minds’ attempt to avoid pain or potentially distressing scenarios. Therefore, you’re probably not going to like the following advice; however its implementation is crucial to your overcoming of Shy Bladder Syndrome.

  • You must disclosure your condition to someone close in your life.

As soon as you “let your bladder shyness secret out”, the burden you’ve dealt with on your own for so long finally doesn’t seem so heavy. Of course, it’s essential to share it with someone you completely trust like a spouse, partner, or best friend. Not only does this help avoid scenarios like the example mentioned earlier, but it also gives you someone to talk to about your condition, and most importantly; someone to practice with.

Now this might seem a bit odd; someone to practice with… but it’s an extremely effective technique and will get you results; especially when implemented with the advice given in the Overcoming Your Bashful Bladder Through Systematic Desensitization blog post. If it’s your spouse or partner, they can do things like walk past the toilet door, walk behind you, tell you to hurry up, and stand next to you whilst you attempt to “go”. If it’s a best friend, you can ask them to accompany you to a toilet whilst out in public and attempt to “go” in consecutive urinals. They can pace behind you, they can chat to you whilst you pee, the list goes on.

Repetition is the mother of skill; if you want to eliminate your bladder shyness once and for all, you need to practice. Telling your nearest and dearest about your Shy Bladder Syndrome, gives them an opportunity to help you. Don’t ignore this stage of your treatment because of a fear of embarrassment; the benefits far outweigh the costs. Bite the bullet, tell someone today, and get rid of your bladder shyness for good.

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Overcoming Your Bashful Bladder Through Systematic Desensitization http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/overcoming-your-bashful-bladder/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/overcoming-your-bashful-bladder/#comments Mon, 06 Sep 2010 18:41:53 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=27 Hypnotherapy is wildly regarded as an effective method for treating a Bashful Bladder. It’s ability to tap into an individuals’ psyche enables the hypnotherapist to reprogram the destructive patterns which replay in an anxiety-provoking public toilet environment. There comes a time, however, when the brave individual must venture out into the ‘restroom wilderness’ and apply what they have learnt in real-life scenarios. Quite a daunting task to say the least. However, there’s an approach to behavioural therapy that helps turn this mountain into much more of a mole hill. This is called Systematic Desensitization, and is a key practice one must adopt to overcome a Bashful Bladder.

Essentially, Systematic Desensitization is a way of overcoming avoidance patterns (such as not using public toilets), by gradually exposing patients to the scenario; small steps at a time. It’s all well and good having psychological treatment for a Bashful Bladder, however the chances of an individual being able to walk into a crowded restroom and ‘go’ the very next day are slim at best. Overcoming a bashful bladder requires the patient to build their way up to this scenario by climbing ‘mini Everest’s’ on a consistent basis.

If you suffer from a Bashful Bladder, the first step I advise is the construction of an ‘Anxiety Hierarchy’. This is a list of the different scenarios (or ‘mini Everest’s') you’d like to overcome. At the start of the list are those that only provoke small levels of anxiety, the further down you go, the greater the anxiety becomes. It helps to rank the scenarios out of 10; 1 being slightly fear-provoking, 10 being extremely.

Here’s an example:

  • Imagining there’s someone in the room while you urinate in the safety of your own home. (1 out of 10).
  • Urinating in a locked stall with others walk past and talk outside. (3 out of 10).
  • Urinating in a stall with the door wide open. (5 out of 10).
  • Urinating in a urinal in an empty public toilet, knowing there’s the possibility that someone could enter at any moment. (6 out of 10).
  • Urinating at a set of urinals that have dividers between, whilst another man ‘goes’ at the opposite end. (8 out of 10).
  • Urinating in a urinal, without dividers, whilst a few other men use the facilities as well. (9 out of 10).
  • Using a urinal in a busy toilet, where there are queue’s, men coming and going, and lots of loud noise. (10 out of 10).

The next stage is to set a day and time every week where you’ll actively head out into public and attempt the first (or next) step on your list. Beforehand, load up on water to increase your ‘need to go’. Once you’ve achieved each one at least twice, you’re ready to move on to the next challenge.

Now it’s very important not to get disheartened if you don’t achieve your goal at the first time of asking. Each attempt at the step desensitizes your fear. You’ll start to realise nothing bad happens and your anxiety diminishes. Persevere, because the more you confront your Bashful Bladder, the less daunting public restrooms will be.

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Shy Bladder Syndrome: The Power of The Unconscious Mind http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/shy-bladder-syndrome-the-power-of-the-unconscious-mind/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/09/shy-bladder-syndrome-the-power-of-the-unconscious-mind/#comments Thu, 02 Sep 2010 13:08:52 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=20 Shy Bladder Syndrome is the classic “mind-over-body” disorder. Paruretics experience the physical problems of a condition that originates in the mind which is the very definition of a psychogenic disorder. As you well know, the mind is an extremely powerful instrument that we only have partial control over. Guiding the ‘conscious mind’ is within our reach, however the ‘unconscious mind’ proves to be a far trickier phenomena to even understand; let alone control.

It’s no wonder GP success rates in treating Paruresis are considerably low; they’re trained to treat the physical not the mental. Visiting your GP is very important to ensure your inability to urinate isn’t caused by medical reasons, however it would be quite foolish to expect a GP to be able to treat a condition outside the realm of their capabilities. One does not visit a butcher for bread and a baker for meat. If you want help with a physical condition you visit a GP, if you want help with a psychological condition you visit someone trained in that area. This is why hypnotherapy has such high success rates in treating Shy Bladder Syndrome; it re-trains the ‘unconscious mind’.

I’m going to take the example of one of my previous clients to explain how the ‘unconscious mind’ runs the rule over the bladder. For the sake of privacy, we’ll call him John. See if you can relate…

John is 34 years old and has suffered from Shy Bladder Syndrome for as long as he can remember. He recalls an event that occurred during his early teens at school as the cause of his condition. His attempts to urinate at a public urinal were hampered by several older boys entering the area and teasing him. John literally froze up. From then on he was just unable to ‘go’, no matter how much he told himself to relax and stay calm.

I’m extremely proud that I was able to help John overcome his condition, but let’s look at the process that occurred in John’s mind and body in more detail:

It’s crucial to understand the 2 forces that direct human behaviour. We attempt to pursue pleasure and avoid pain. When the older boys started to tease John, his ‘unconscious mind’ responded to the sensory information from the external environment and perceived what he saw, heard, smelt (and any other senses that were called into action) as painful. From then on, whenever John entered an environment that his senses recognised were similar, he perceived it as painful. His brain therefore interpreted the situation as one that is not safe and that should be avoided. As a result, his ‘unconscious mind’ overrode any messages of encouragement to relax and stay calm he passed to his ‘conscious mind’. Shy Bladder Syndrome is effectively a protection mechanism employed by the ‘unconscious mind’ to make sure you avoid painful scenarios. On one hand we can be thankful that it’s looking out for us, even when we aren’t aware of it. However, on the other hand, it shows how easily it picks up unwanted routines and how hard it is to break them.

Shy Bladder Syndrome is a condition that you learned. It’s your minds way of avoiding pain.

Urinating in public can also be learned. The key – link pleasure to it.

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How To Cure Your Paruresis In 3 Weeks http://shybladdercure.info/2010/08/paruresis/ http://shybladdercure.info/2010/08/paruresis/#comments Thu, 19 Aug 2010 08:38:27 +0000 shybladdercure http://shybladdercure.info/?p=7 If you are currently battling Paruresis – also called “Shy Bladder Syndrome” or “Pee Shyness” – there are two things you need to know:

  1. You are not alone – according to recent statistics more than 17 million people suffer from this condition … and
  2. You can overcome it!

Often referred to as Pee-Shyness, Shy Bladder or Bashful Bladder, Paruresis is a social anxiety disorder that makes people who need to urinate unable to do so when they think others can see or hear them. It also describes people who experience difficulty ‘going’ under the stress of time pressure or when traveling on moving vehicles.

The condition is nothing to be ashamed of as at least 7% of the population suffers from it – of course, if you are a Paruresis sufferer not being ashamed is much easier said than done.

It can also be very detrimental to your health.

Many people start drinking less fluid so they don’t have to go when they are out and some people have reported not urinating for as long as 10, 12, 16, or even 20 hours because they could not find a ‘safe’ bathroom.

Not urinating for this length of time can be very hard on your bladder and kidneys and can lead to the formation of stones in either organ, or cystitis which is also very painful.

A delay before urination in public places is perfectly natural … it’s a natural survival response– we are vulnerable while urinating and thus need to ensure that the environment is safe before we proceed.

However, for Paruresis sufferers the delay causes anxiety which further hinders their ability to urinate. Then as their anxiety increases, the body interprets the environment as not being safe, causing the internal sphincter to shut and make urination impossible.

This condition can have a truly debilitating and even incapacitating effect on a person’s life.

For example, chronic sufferers may find it difficult to travel very far from their home and still others may find it impossible to urinate even in their own home if they can hear anyone else there.

Some of those suffering from Paruresis trace their condition back to emotional, physical or sexual abuse while some others trace it to a particularly anxiety-provoking toilet training experience.

However, the vast majority of Paruresis sufferers blame a specific, traumatic event that usually occurred in their early adolescence. These events generally involve some type of teasing or harassment while trying to use the restroom.

When Paruresis sufferers need to go to the bathroom but can’t while others are present, the subconscious mind believes you need to be protected and therefore prevents urination to ensure your safety.

Simply put, Hypnotherapy will retrain your unconscious mind to feel relaxed so that you can urinate normally.

My name’s Paul Levrant and I am a professional clinical Hypnotherapist who created the Shy Bladder Cure product based on countless hours of clinical practice. I then tested the audios on my own real-life clients before offering them as a downloadable course.

I’ve created three audios that will guide you into a comfortable, relaxed, confident state of mind where your Paruresis will be naturally and comfortably addressed and alleviated.

Just listen to each audio daily for one week and in three weeks you will have overcome your Paruresis and will be able to confidently and comfortably urinate in a public restroom.

This product works. There are no ifs, ands or buts about it. In fact, I’m so sure that it will work for you that I offer you a money-back guarantee… If you are not completely satisfied with your purchase, simply notify me within 60 days and I will refund your money, in full, with absolutely no questions asked!

Now, let me show you more of my credentials so that you can be sure that I am who I say I am and that I have the skill and expertise to help you quickly and safely overcome Paruresis.

I HAVE:

A Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma
A Diploma in Hypnotherapy
A Diploma in Neuro Linguistic Programming
A Certificate in Stress Management
Membership of the National Council for Hypnotherapy
Membership of the General Hypnotherapy Register

How much would you expect to pay for convenient, easy-to-use tools that will allow you to overcome Paruresis and regain both your confidence and your life?

Well, just one-hour session with a reputable hypnotherapist could cost you $150 or more and that’s not even taking into account any of the following:

  • Having to find time in your busy schedule to travel to the therapist’s office
  • Taking off work for your appointment
  • Paying for the gas to get to the office
  • Having to reveal your problem to someone else in person

As you can see, even hundreds of dollars would not be unreasonable to many considering the many benefits of my audio product.

But relax, you won’t have to pay anywhere near that much for the Shy Bladder Cure Audio Program.

In fact, right now, for a limited time, you can take advantage of a special promotional offer and receive the Shy Bladder Cure Audio Program for just $47 – that’s a full $103 off the regular price of $150!

Here’s the bottom line to this incredible program:

Get my Shy Bladder Cure Audio Program and in no time you’ll be able to walk confidently into any restroom, urinate, wash your hands and leave. In no time, you won’t be thinking about this issue at all!




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