Hypnotherapy is wildly regarded as an effective method for treating a Bashful Bladder. It’s ability to tap into an individuals’¬†psyche enables the hypnotherapist to reprogram the destructive patterns which replay in an anxiety-provoking public toilet environment. There comes a time, however, when the brave individual must venture out into the ‘restroom wilderness’ and apply what they have learnt in real-life scenarios. Quite a daunting task to say the least. However, there’s an approach to behavioural therapy that helps turn this mountain into much more of a mole hill. This is called Systematic Desensitization, and is a key practice one must adopt to overcome a Bashful Bladder.
Essentially, Systematic Desensitization is a way of overcoming avoidance patterns (such as not using public toilets), by gradually exposing patients to the scenario; small steps at a time. It’s all well and good having psychological treatment for a Bashful Bladder, however the chances of an individual being able to walk into a crowded restroom and ‘go’ the very next day are slim at best. Overcoming a bashful bladder requires the patient to build their way up to this scenario by climbing ‘mini Everest’s’ on a consistent basis.
If you suffer from a Bashful Bladder, the first step I advise is the construction of an ‘Anxiety Hierarchy’. This is a list of the different scenarios (or ‘mini Everest’s') you’d like to overcome. At the start of the list are those that only provoke small levels of anxiety, the further down you go, the greater the anxiety becomes. It helps to rank the scenarios out of 10; 1 being slightly fear-provoking, 10 being extremely.
Here’s an example:
- Imagining there’s someone in the room while you urinate in the safety of your own home. (1 out of 10).
- Urinating in a locked stall with others walk past and talk outside. (3 out of 10).
- Urinating in a stall with the door wide open. (5 out of 10).
- Urinating in a urinal in an empty public toilet, knowing there’s the possibility that someone could enter at any moment. (6 out of 10).
- Urinating at a set of urinals that have dividers between, whilst another man ‘goes’ at the opposite end. (8 out of 10).
- Urinating in a urinal, without dividers, whilst a few other men use the facilities as well. (9 out of 10).
- Using a urinal in a busy toilet, where there are queue’s, men coming and going, and lots of loud noise. (10 out of 10).
The next stage is to set a day and time every week where you’ll actively head out into public and attempt the first (or next) step on your list. Beforehand, load up on water to increase your ‘need to go’. Once you’ve achieved each one at least twice, you’re ready to move on to the next challenge.
Now it’s very important not to get disheartened if you don’t achieve your goal at the first time of asking. Each attempt at the step desensitizes your fear. You’ll start to realise nothing bad happens and your anxiety diminishes. Persevere, because the more you confront your Bashful Bladder, the less daunting public restrooms will be.